If you could pick for your kid to be super successful or to be kind – which one would you pick?

I gave this some thought. And I definitely chose kind. Kind people are happy. Kind people are surrounded by kind people. What else can I pick for myself? What else can I pick for my kid?

Our older kid (5 year old at the time) was bit by another child at preschool. Because she did not want to share a candy. Her candy.  My husband was proud to find that she defended herself and called the teachers. I was thinking of the aftermath of that event. Is there a better way to handle that, at least afterwards?

I know it could be too much to expect of a 5 year old to handle it any differently, but… I hope she shares everything. I hope she gives the last piece of anything to someone else. Not like she is fighting for survival.

Hear me out – what is the worst thing that can happen there? She becomes a pushover who never fights for her own or doesn’t know how to stand her grounds? I highly doubt this will be the case. I think it’s more likely she will surround herself with kind people and everything she give to others will feel really good.

We have a younger child and our older seem to be in the “survival mode” all the time. ALL. THE. TIME. We watch Daniel Tiger and the messages are not really sticking with her. Only if we discuss about the episode right after it ends helps somewhere. (Yes, this also means I have to watch the episode.) We read books too, which also helps somewhat.

Moms of multiple kids – will it ever end? My kids are 4 years apart. Tricky, tricky age difference.